can't live with them, can't live without them
English
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[edit]Proverb
[edit]can't live with them, can't live without them
- There is a hopeless, ongoing conflict between annoyance with someone or something and need for that same person or thing.
- 1996 July 7, A. J. Benza, “Is Sly using his muscle to stop tell-all?”, in New York Daily News, retrieved 13 August 2015:
- You've got to find the woman that works for you. Because, after all, we can't live with them, can't live without them.
- 1999 July 25, Cayte Williams, “Why won't my !@*!!@ machine work?”, in Independent, UK, retrieved 13 August 2015:
- Can't live with them, can't live without them. Like tweezers, pagers and passport control, computers are essential for modern living. They're marvellous (the erotic e-mail is the new love letter) and totally rubbish (it takes three hours to turn the printer on).
- 2010 October 16, Nick McGrath, “Lulu: The singer talks about her family”, in Guardian, UK, retrieved 13 August 2015:
- My parents' relationship was very much, "can't live with them, can't live without them". They were a crazy old couple and it was one of those love/hate things.
- 2012 June 7, Carrie Donovan, “Going Out Guide for the District of Columbia, June 7-13”, in Washington Post, retrieved 13 August 2015:
- “Men, Can’t Live With Them, Can’t Live Without Them.” Actor Cam Magee and singer Beverly Cosham explore the age-old theme in sonnets and speeches by Shakespeare and songs by Johnny Mercer and Cole Porter.
Usage notes
[edit]- Frequently used to express a mixture of humor and regret regarding the imperfect, often inconsistent relationship between marital or romantic partners.
- Many minor variant forms of expression are possible, as in:
- 2009 March 12, Clyde Haberman, “The Rich: Can’t Live With Them, Can’t Live Without Them”, in New York Times, retrieved 13 August 2015:
- [T]hat’s the problem most of us have with the very rich. You can’t live with ’em, but you can’t live without ’em.