bi now, gay later

English

Etymology

A pun on the marketing phrase "buy now, pay later".

Proverb

bi now, gay later

1. (humorous, offensive) A slogan suggesting that bisexual people tend to become exclusively homosexual later in life.
   • 2016, Lindsay King-Miller, Ask a Queer Chick: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life for Girls Who Dig Girls, Penguin, →ISBN:

     One of the most common misconceptions about bisexuality is that it's some kind of stepping-stone on the way to coming out "all the way," as gay and/or lesbian. This pernicious stereotype, sometimes referred to as “bi now, gay later,” is often used to warn straight people away from dating bi folks. […] If “bi now, gay later” is one side of an offensive, disrespectful coin, the LUG (or “lesbian until graduation”) stereotype is its counterpart.

   • 2021, Estella Ferraro, Wilful Blindness: On the Relationship of Identity, Agency and Personal, Springer Nature (→ISBN), page 162, quoting a man named John:

     "And I did that usual sort of bi now gay later thing, so I was like I'm bisexual, I'm bisexual, I like women as well. Just to make it more acceptable."

   • For more quotations using this term, see Citations:bi now, gay later.

See also

• lesbian until graduation