DTMFA

English

Etymology

Coined by sex advice columnist Dan Savage, in Savage Love.

Verb

DTMFA

1. Initialism of dump the mother-fucker already, as advice to a partner in a relationship.
   • 2004 March 31, Gallilea, “Savage Love disses wannabe moos”, in alt.support.childfree‎^[1] (Usenet):

     But you should be terrified of committing to a woman who wants to make a baby with you after two months, to say nothing of seeing your kid raised in some crackpot religion and that describes every last one of 'em, in my opinion. DTMFA.

   • 2007 January 17, Phil Carmody, “Re: Childfree Abby - Odour of Sancticity Group”, in alt.support.childfree‎^[2] (Usenet):

     Arrogant bitch. Oi! Catholic bloke - DTMFA, she's too self-centred and controlling.

   • 2008 January 23, Pat Kight, “Re: Some Advice?”, in alt.polyamory‎^[3] (Usenet):

     She needs to stop lying. She needs to start protecting you from STD risk and unplanned pregnancy. I know I only have your side to look at, but I'm tempted to tell you to DTMFA ... I know that wouldn't be helpful, though, as you've said it's not what you want. But still, yeesh.

   • 2009 May 8, Mike Dworetsky, “Re: Why are there so many men on Earth???”, in fj.kanji‎^[4] (Usenet):

     If you're interested in the biological-evolutionary question, 'The Red Queen' by Matt Ridley is a very informative and clearly written pop-sci book on the subject. Otherwise I recommend the classics: chocolate, alcohol, and if you have not already done so, DTMFA.

   • 2010 September 5, hls, “Re: Dreadful advice but quite hilarious”, in alt.activism.death-penalty‎^[5] (Usenet):

     Agree. This isnt a relationship....he wants a sex toy. And apparently he tires quickly of the game. DTMFA

   • 2012 June 26, Paul Ciszek, “Re: OK, I am really getting sick of 9CWL”, in rec.arts.comics.strips‎^[6] (Usenet):

     In fact, one could argue that in this case Edda needs to OYM,SYP while Amos needs to DTMFA --and may in fact have already done so.

   • 2013, Sadie Nardini, “Day 12: Theme: Date Yourself”, in The 21-Day Yoga Body: A Metabolic Makeover and Life-Styling Manual to Get You Fit, Fierce, and Fabulous in Just 3 Weeks‎^[7], Random House, →ISBN:

     Honestly, if you asked your romantic partner, 'How do I look today?' and he or she replied, “Oh my gosh, you look like a huge, fat pig, and you're totally disgusting,' you'd probably DTMFA

   • 2017, Julia Kent, The Her Billionaires Series Mega Boxed Set‎^[8], →OCLC:

     DTMFA. Both of them. Because the lack of respect they'd shown her told her everything she needed to know, even if that feeling of 'fuck you' went against everything her heart was crying out right now, its words pleading with her to give them at least a quick meeting to hear why they hid this from her.

   • For more quotations using this term, see Citations:DTMFA.