2020, Chloe Mant, "The performative nature of dating", TN2 Magazine (Trinity College Dublin), Summer 2020, page 29:
This misogynist take has been deeply ingrained in society and has even lead to women tearing down other women and gives way to what is informally known as a 'pick me' culture, where women completely change their views, behaviours and personality to become more desirable to men.
We cause harm through through slut-shaming, white supremacy, fat-shaming and being 'pick-mes'.
2021, Raquel Catpo, "Harmful Social Media Terminologies & Their Effects", The Thunderbolt (Mills High School, Millbrae, CA), May 2021, page 7:
According to Urban Dictionary, "A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal."
2021, Veronica Preaskom, "Gender Inequalities and the Lack of Support", Oakton Outlook (Oakton High School, Vienna, VA), May 2021, page 34:
Alongside being called a “pick me” for watching sports, female athletes or even scholars are often called tryhards or told to just go back to the kitchen.
2021, Amy Grantham, "Why Do We Hate Everything That Teenage Girls Love?", QMunicate (University of Glasgow), Issue 149, Summer 2021, page 25:
Here comes the 'I'm not like other girls' trope, one of the guys, a 'pick me' one might say.
2021, Sabine Waldeck, "Phrase 'pick me' adds fuel to the fire that is internalized misogyny", The Berkeley Beacon (Emerson College), 21 October 2021, page 4:
“Pick me’s”[sic] say and do things to present themselves in a way where some might consider them different and special in comparison to other girls in order to gain male attention.
2022, Adinda Oktaviani, Linguistics Anthology Insights From Students Research, pages 58-59:
By saying "pick-me girls", some people these days do not necessarily refer to women experiencing internalized misogyny who choose to degrade other women through their speeches with the purpose of gaining admiration from the opposite sex as what we have discussed earlier in this study, instead, they simply call any females whose characteristics do not quite float their boat “pick-mes”, which we can categorize as a personal matter rather than a collective one since the judgement is based on individual's bias rather than specific speech characteristics such as the ones we have analyzed in the previous section.
2022, "Pierre Laclede Dating Service", Brain Stew (satirical magazine of Pierre Laclede Honors College), Issue 9, page 12:
Second off, we have software that can spot the pick-mes, and the “I'm not like other girls”.
2022, Inaaya Yousef, "Pick me!", The Print (Queen Mary University of London), February/March 2022, page 13:
To be the friend of a 'pick me' is an entirely different, degrading experience. The friend whom you pull into a warm embrace, would distance herself from you – should you step out of line with "the boys." She is unable to separate her 'friend' from her 'competition' due to the fact that she has been taught to view all women as competition.
Why is Alexa always bragging about her capabilities and asking if you’d like her to do extra tasks, TikTok creator @OfficiallyDivinity wonders in a video. She accuses Alexa of being a “pick me,” a term for women willing to step on others to get approval.
She sings against the mistakes of her husband, as in “Lemonade,” sharing his missteps with her fans, and this angers women stuck under the whims of men — the pick mes as the internet calls them.
So, she uses her clothes to try to assert herself, to show that she is somehow different (even if her actions suggest otherwise) in a “pick me” sort of way.
Noun: "(slang, derogatory) a person who acts against the interests of their own (typically marginalized) group in the hope of obtaining majority favour"
Pick-mes are ideal for the role of the token minority friend since they often fall in line with racist beliefs used against their own community.
2020, Marissa Foster, "Stop being a 'pick me' person to fit in", Pepperpot (Georgetown, Guyana), 1 November 2020, page 20:
The most disgusting act I've seen from a "pick me" is when they'd bring others down or betray the ones who cared for them all in the name of "being accepted."
2022, Shreya Joshi, "Ghislaine Maxwell and the pathological pick-me syndrome", The Medium (University of Toronto Mississauga, 17 January 2022, page 6:
A “pick-me” person is desperate for acceptance from a particular group and will do whatever it takes to gain access to certain social circles and remain there.
